How to survive the holidays when experiencing grief

Hello readers, today we want to talk about navigating the holiday season when you're not quite feeling the festive spirit.

When considering Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's, the typical imagery involves beautifully adorned tables, festive trees, quality time with family, and an overall sense of joy. However, this isn't the reality for everyone. For some, the holidays can be the most challenging time of the year, especially when dealing with loss, separation, or adversity. So, how can one navigate through these difficult moments?

Firstly, it's crucial to establish realistic expectations. Acknowledging and honestly assessing the differences in this year's holiday season is essential. Reflect on past responsibilities and assess whether you can manage them this year. If you feel up to it, go ahead, but it's perfectly fine if you don't. Communicate your feelings and be open to accepting support from those around you.

Surround yourself with a supportive network of people, whether they are family or chosen support. Share your expectations for the holidays and what you are willing to participate in. While engaging in social activities, also take the time to reminisce about memories, particularly of loved ones who are no longer present.

Avoid the temptation to completely cancel the holiday. While it's acceptable to skip specific aspects that may be challenging, isolation should be avoided. Include moments of solitude for reflection and grief, but balance them with planned social activities.

Allow yourself to experience a range of emotions, from joy to sadness to anger. Embrace the grieving process, recognizing that everyone undergoes it differently. Refrain from passing judgment on others for their unique experiences.

To uplift your spirits during the holidays, consider contributing to others. Whether through donations or inviting someone who might be alone, finding ways to help can bring a sense of comfort.

Lastly, think about establishing new traditions or rituals that align with your current situation. Creating something positive in honor of a loss can provide a sense of closeness and positivity during challenging times, offering a meaningful activity to repeat each year.

However you choose to spend this holiday season, remember that it's perfectly okay to make your decision. There's no definitive right or wrong way—only what feels most fitting for you. As always if you have any suggestions for future posts, feel free to reach out!